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A longer life. A happier life. A healthier life. Above all, a life that matters—so that when you leave this world, you’ll have changed it for the better. If science said you could have all this just by altering one behavior, would you?Dr. Stephen Post has been making headlines by funding studies at the nation’s top universities to prove once and for all the life-enhancing benefits of caring, kindness, and compassion. The exciting new research shows that when we give of ourselves, especially if we start young, everything from life-satisfaction to self-realization and physical health is significantly affected. Mortality is delayed. Depression is reduced. Well-being and good fortune are increased. In their life-changing new book, Why Good Things Happen to Good People, Dr. Post and journalist Jill Neimark weave the growing new science of love and giving with profoundly moving real-life stories to show exactly how giving unlocks the doors to health, happiness, and a longer life. The astounding new research includes a fifty-year study showing that people who are giving during their high school years have better physical and mental health throughout their lives. Other studies show that older people who give live longer than those who don’t. Helping others has been shown to bring health benefits to those with chronic illness, including HIV, multiple sclerosis, and heart problems. And studies show that people of all ages who help others on a regular basis, even in small ways, feel happiest. Why Good Things Happen to Good People offers ten ways to give of yourself, in four areas of life, all proven by science to improve your health and even add to your life expectancy. (And not one requires you to write a check.) The one-of-a-kind “Love and Longevity Scale” scores you on all ten ways, from volunteering to listening, loyalty to forgiveness, celebration to standing up for what you believe in. Using the lessons and guidelines in each chapter, you can create a personalized plan for a more generous life, finding the style of giving that suits you best. The astonishing connection between generosity and health is so convincing that it will inspire readers to change their lives in ways big and small. Get started today. A longer, healthier, happier life awaits you.

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……即便是被痴呆症的阴云所笼罩，她依然能够付出爱，而且接受爱。事实上，爱是她仅存的语言。这些患者向我揭示了一个简单的真理：付出是我们生命的核心。从这些深度健忘的人与他们的家人身上，我学到了许多关于付出的道理。

心理学家埃蒙斯说过：“关注、欣赏和细品生活的滋味，是健康愉快的决定性因素，而这种能力是可以练习和培养的。”埃蒙斯认为，人类总是会无意识地进入到一种“享乐跑轮”的状态中去，会很容易习惯了一种舒适愉悦，然后视其为理所当然。人脑中两个古老的区域杏仁核与伏隔核，作用是调节我们对愉悦与回报的预期，这两个区域就不可避免地命令我们总是不停地追求新的快乐。有意识地把注意力放在感激的情绪上，能遏止我们的贪心。

在2009年发表于《分子精神病学》的一项研究结果显示，正常的基因变化作用于调节神经传导素多巴胺，与人们的利他行为密切相关。人体内的多巴胺是与渴望、愉悦、回报等情绪有关的一种化学物质。研究员们研究了三百五十四个拥有超过一个孩子的家庭，发现最常见的基因分型多巴胺D4，与慷慨和付出的行为有相当密切的关联。即使是年幼的孩子，也知道去试着安慰弟弟或妹妹，大概是因为他头脑中无数个微小的爱的神经开启了体内的多巴胺。倘若真是如此，那说明大自然早已确保付出行为会带来人体内本能的回报。这也再一次验证了科学界在数年前就发现的“助人者快感”现象。

……大卫重新提出了达尔文的群体选择概念，来解释为什么人们会乐于付出。他指出，如果一个群体的成员比较愿意相互付出，这样的群体更容易存活和强大。

道歉没有效果的一个原因，是犯错者和被冒犯者对问题的看法不一致。学者们研究了犯错者的个人陈述，发现他们都倾向于把自己的所作所为淡而化之……而被冒犯者往往会把事情看得比实际更严重，其实只是因为，伤口依旧在疼痛。

学者们还发现到另一个导致道歉失败的原因，叫做“强度落差”。就是说，当我们伤害到别人的时候，对方失去的，比我们得到的要多，所以我们是无法还这个“债”的。……当犯错者努力去改进，就觉的双方应该是扯平了，但是被冒犯者还是会觉得自己应该报复，双方往往不同步。……

道歉是能疗伤的，因为它能令双方都找回自尊。道歉的行为，让我们确认我们拥有同样的价值观，那个错误不是有心故意的，我们在彼此面前都是安全的。犯错的人，已经真正为此感到痛苦，我们可以敞开心扉讨论这件事。道歉需要发自内心深处，诚恳地说：“我对此非常抱歉。”

顽强是勇敢者的核心品质。根据加州大学艾尔文分校“坚强研究所”创办人萨尔瓦多·麦迪的研究显示，顽强，是由三个C组成的：使命感（commitment）、控制（control）、挑战（challenge）。麦迪认为，对抗困境的能力，是可以被教授和训练的，这种能力可以对人的身体健康起到很好的保护作用。麦迪也认为三C之中的challenge（挑战），是良好的成长契机。

经过四十年的研究，我发现对争议的坚持，与以下几个因素密切相关：对公正的敏感度、站在他人的角度看问题的能力、感受他人的痛楚、从心理上和道德上都有所回应。对正义、勇气、顽强和转变的研究也发现，勇气所具备的所有特质，都让我们勇于与伤害抗衡。……

真正的勇气，是忍受与信任

当你确认了自己的压力类型后，就应该尝试以乐观的心态来面对问题。对于突然性压力，你应该能够想到一个快速应对的方案。而长期性的压力，你应该随着时间的推移，学着随时调整应对的方法。要知道，你的人生很重要，值得全力以赴。请相信改变自己的处境，能让你的生命更有意义。

怎样给别人最好的鼓励？

愿意直面世界上的痛苦。

莎翁笔下的罗密欧说：“给你的越多，我就拥有越多，无论施与受都是无穷无尽的”

书籍介绍

A longer life. A happier life. A healthier life. Above all, a life that matters—so that when you leave this world, you’ll have changed it for the better. If science said you could have all this just by altering one behavior, would you?Dr. Stephen Post has been making headlines by funding studies at the nation’s top universities to prove once and for all the life-enhancing benefits of caring, kindness, and compassion. The exciting new research shows that when we give of ourselves, especially if we start young, everything from life-satisfaction to self-realization and physical health is significantly affected. Mortality is delayed. Depression is reduced. Well-being and good fortune are increased. In their life-changing new book, Why Good Things Happen to Good People, Dr. Post and journalist Jill Neimark weave the growing new science of love and giving with profoundly moving real-life stories to show exactly how giving unlocks the doors to health, happiness, and a longer life. The astounding new research includes a fifty-year study showing that people who are giving during their high school years have better physical and mental health throughout their lives. Other studies show that older people who give live longer than those who don’t. Helping others has been shown to bring health benefits to those with chronic illness, including HIV, multiple sclerosis, and heart problems. And studies show that people of all ages who help others on a regular basis, even in small ways, feel happiest. Why Good Things Happen to Good People offers ten ways to give of yourself, in four areas of life, all proven by science to improve your health and even add to your life expectancy. (And not one requires you to write a check.) The one-of-a-kind “Love and Longevity Scale” scores you on all ten ways, from volunteering to listening, loyalty to forgiveness, celebration to standing up for what you believe in. Using the lessons and guidelines in each chapter, you can create a personalized plan for a more generous life, finding the style of giving that suits you best. The astonishing connection between generosity and health is so convincing that it will inspire readers to change their lives in ways big and small. Get started today. A longer, healthier, happier life awaits you.

• 作者：桀骆赛文 发布时间：2013-09-13 10:20:47

  祝愿我考过吧！

• 作者：白夜无形 发布时间：2018-08-31 21:11:57

  #我添加的条目#

• 作者：刘吃 发布时间：2022-06-04 16:47:30

  读鲁迅，读再多，也休想模仿他，超越他

• 作者：北溟鱼 发布时间：2017-02-01 12:50:37

  这行文也是浪漫得不行了 #对司马迁的真爱感受到了#

• 作者：Joan 发布时间：2019-01-27 14:05:02

  比起拥抱古典拥抱现代的卢斯，莫里斯大概应该是反古典反现代的。卢斯的困扰在于他不能说服当时的“大多数”，莫里斯的困扰在于他不能说服自己。莫里斯60岁时，卢斯24岁。莫里斯的圈子里是拉斐尔前派画家，卢斯的圈子里是表现主义画家。但是如果这两位看到村上隆的“艺术”应该会意见一致。艺术融入生活或许只是个悖论 这次不审核了

• 作者：鹤-望蓝 发布时间：2020-10-05 01:03:55

  非常精致的绘本，画出了张爱玲的一生，一如她人生中总可感受到的精致。粉丝不能错过，觉得过一段时间拿出来翻翻都很有意思。有几幅画超级喜欢，很传神。原生真是影响一生，即使熟知她的故事，读完仍旧不胜唏嘘吧。

• 缺乏逻辑性，牵强

  作者：黑泽尔 发布时间：2011-06-28 10:29:38

         我不反对作者想要表达的观点，但作者的表达方式却极其没有逻辑性、凌乱。比如第一个方式——赞美，名字是赞美，但里面大多写的是感激之心。第二个写传承，除了该章节的首尾两部分提到（仅仅是提到）传承外，中间大部分讲得是别的东西。就好像有些学生写命题作文，写着写着发现写跑题了，文章结尾又拽回来一样。

      书里举得例子也很牵强，作者写的很多统计有没有科学性暂且不说，很多事例的解释让我没法接受。比如书开头写作者本人能忍受巴士没空调和身后的智障每隔十几分钟对他的骚扰，而另外一个人因为忍受不了燥热而破口大骂。结局是：那个人最后被司机赶出巴士，而作者和智障顺利的到达目的地并为此感到高兴。这就是所谓的科学解释因果吗？？我看不出哪里和科学两字沾边。

      把书里的逻辑性改好的话，这本书是可以当做小学生思想品德教材的。但是以科学解释因果为噱头，实在是哗众取宠了。

• 正常社会的心灵旅程

  作者：janson 发布时间：2012-11-14 23:02:39

  如果社会是在好的路上，这样的指引是有效的；但如果在一个乱遭遭的社会，那就是对正义与公正的亵渎。我没有办法用这样的眼光看待身边的人，包括亲人。虽然在读这本书的时候，心里很感动。

  总有一些人是无法沟通的，总有一些人心里无法原谅，也无法面对。作为个体，真的如书中所说，带着付出的心，坦诚面对那些亲人的时候，带回来的只有更多的伤害。至少就我而言，人生中体会最多就是这样。

  不可否认，这本书值得一读，无论是处在哪样的人生阶段。但这样理想与学术化的解决方式，更多的时候只能来要求自己。

  道德永远都是面对自己的。可惜的是，体会到这一点的人很少。