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游泳运动训练理论与方法的发展与现状
游泳技术理论及方法的研究
优秀游泳运动员赛前调整手段与方法的理论性探讨
我国优秀游泳运动员的生理监控
游泳高原训练理论与方法的研究
游泳项目选材理论与方法的研究
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精彩短评：
作者：小浅 发布时间：2017-04-20 13:24:26
薄薄的一本书，然后他还水水的~真心不推荐
作者：幻剑 发布时间：2012-09-28 21:20:47
都说不错跟狼群不相上下，拭目以待~~~
作者：vvai 发布时间：2014-01-26 12:33:09
有点老套。但还是学到了一些，比如传统定义的女性礼仪，西餐讲究等等。《时尚丽人礼仪课堂全集》
作者：John Wayne 发布时间：2009-10-16 15:44:45
越看越糊涂
作者：伊娃 发布时间：2018-06-14 22:28:50
嗯，其实描述很精彩，短篇阅读速度也相对较快，难怪是青少年读物。
作者：Julia 发布时间：2020-12-22 12:28:34
字体大小和间距可能会给人速成类书籍的感觉，但我觉得内容还挺好的。基本在讲词法，句法只有一章，应该比较适合A1A2阶段的学习。
深度书评：
诗经取名（完结）
作者：夏莲 发布时间：2011-09-11 12:07:27
据说汉人取名讲究“女诗经，男楚辞，文论语，武周易”，不知这种说法从何而来，不过现代人取名字确实很喜欢引经据典。这是好事。今人多有数典忘祖的倾向，外国语大学遍布全国，却不曾听说有一个国学学院（据说有还是有的，不过都相当低调）。取名的时候，终于想到祖宗了，于是临时抱佛脚的不在少数。
笔者不才，对于开头提到的四本书也略有涉猎，通读下来，诗经和楚辞适合取名的更多一些——古人多是单名，现在人口多，单名易重复，最好取双名——特整理于此。本文写诗经，以女名为主，因为过于古典，现在看来可能土里土气的><。楚辞部分，待有空另开一篇。（已开出：
http://book.douban.com/review/5362460/
）
1、蓁蓁（音真）。《周南·桃夭》：“桃之夭夭，其叶蓁蓁”。蓁蓁，茂盛貌。
2、燕飞。《邶风·燕燕》：“燕燕于飞，差池其羽”。
3、淑慎。《邶风·燕燕》：“终温且惠，淑慎其身”。淑慎，和善谨慎。如台湾有艺人名萧淑慎。
4、惠然。《邶风·终风》：“终风且霾，惠然肯来”。惠然，顺从貌。
5、静姝。《邶风·静女》：“静女其姝，俟我于城隅”。2010版三国里就加了个叫静姝的角色Orz。下文还有个“静娈”，都是娴静美丽的意思。
6、炜彤。《邶风·静女》：“彤管有炜，说怿女美”。彤：红色。炜：光彩。
7、洵美。《邶风·静女》：“自牧归荑，洵美且异”。洵美就是很美的意思。《郑风·叔于田》：“洵美且仁”、“洵美且好”。
8、燕婉。《邶风·新台》：“燕婉之求”。燕婉：安静和顺，也指如意郎君。字面漂亮，但这一篇《新台》主旨是讽刺卫宣公的乱伦，上下文的意思不是很好，慎用。
9、如云。《鄘风·君子偕老》：“鬒发如云，不屑髢也”。如云：像云一样众多。《郑风·出其东门》：“出其东门，有女如云”。屈原《湘夫人》：“九嶷缤兮并迎，灵之来兮如云”。
10、邦媛。《鄘风·君子偕老》：“展如之人兮，邦之媛也”。邦：国家。媛：美女。另有“邦彦”——《郑风·羊裘》：“彼其之子，邦之彦兮”。彦：杰出的人才。如北宋有词人名周邦彦。
11、灵雨。《鄘风·定之方中》：“灵雨既零”。灵雨：及时雨。需要指出的是，南方人分不清前后鼻音，该词极易被念成“淋雨”，再取个“落汤鸡”的外号就是顺利成章的事了><
12、朝雨。《鄘风·蝃蝀》：“朝隮于西，崇朝其雨”。指早晨的雨。唐时王维有诗曰：“渭城朝雨浥轻尘， 客舍青青柳色新”。
13、芃芃（音朋）。《鄘风·载驰》：“我行其野，芃芃其麦”。芃芃：草木茂盛貌。值得一提的是，该篇的作者许穆夫人是我国见于记载的第一位女诗人。
14、绿竹。《卫风·淇奥》：“瞻彼淇奥，绿竹青青”。
15、琇莹。《卫风·淇奥》：“有匪君子，充耳琇莹”。琇：宝石。莹：光亮透明。
16、巧倩、美盼。《卫风·硕人》：“巧笑倩兮，美目盼兮”。上文连用六个比喻，赞美卫庄公夫人的美貌，文字很美。
17、佩玉。《卫风·竹竿》：“巧笑之瑳，佩玉之傩”。
18、琼琚。《卫风·木瓜》：“投我以木瓜，报之以琼琚”。后文还有（大名鼎鼎的）“琼瑶”、“琼玖”。
19、陶陶。《王风·君子阳阳》：“君子陶陶”。陶陶：快乐貌。
20、佩玖。《王风·丘中有麻》：“彼留之子，诒我佩玖”。佩玖：佩戴用的美玉。
21、静好。《郑风·女曰鸡鸣》：“琴瑟在御，莫不静好”。静好：安静美好。胡兰成和张爱玲结婚时，写下：“岁月静好，现世安稳”。
22、舜华、舜英。《郑风·有女同车》：“有女同车，颜如舜华···颜如舜英”。舜华、舜英都指木槿花。
23、德音。《郑风·有女同车》：“彼美孟姜，德音不忘”。德音：美好品德。这个词在整本诗经里多次出现，此处不一一列举。个人感觉该词的气场比较大，一般人hold不住吼吼
24、子佩。《郑风·子衿》：“青青子佩，悠悠我思”。子佩和子衿在这里都指对方的衣饰（从而代指对方）。
25、零露。《郑风·野有蔓草》：“野有蔓草，零露漙兮”。零露：零落的露水。然而该词溢满了感伤的气息（延伸义：容易消失的事物），偶的眼前骤然浮现出小说或影视剧中那些林黛玉式的女纸···
26、婉兮、婉如。《郑风·野有蔓草》：“有美一人，清扬婉兮···婉如清扬”。婉：美丽。至于“清扬”，应该没有人想和洗发水重名= =
27、琼华。《齐风·著》：“尚之以琼华乎而”。下文“琼莹”、“琼英”，均形容美玉。
28、美清。《齐风·猗嗟》：“猗嗟名兮，美目清兮”，赞美眼睛美丽清亮。东晋陶渊明有诗曰：“佳人美清夜，达曙酣且歌”。
29、如英。《魏风·汾沮洳》：“美如英”，下文还有“美如玉”。如花似玉貌。
30、清猗。《魏风·伐檀》：“河水清且涟猗”。
31、素衣。《唐风·扬之水》：“素衣朱襮，从子于沃”。素衣：白色的衣服。北宋晏几道词曰：“素衣染尽天香，玉酒添成国色”。BUT在《礼记》等典籍中，“素衣”也指丧服。
32、菁菁。《唐风·杕杜》：“有杕之杜，其叶箐箐”。菁菁：草木茂盛。
33、采苓。《唐风·采苓》：“采苓采苓，首阳之巅”。《诗经》中，“采～”形式的词语多次出现，除此之外，还有“采蘩”、“采薇”、“采菲”、“采芑”、“采菽”等。都是采摘某种植物的意思。
34、文茵。《秦风·小戎》：“文茵畅毂，驾我骐馵”。文茵：车中的虎皮坐褥。这个词外柔内刚有木有！
35、湄。单名一个“湄”字，取自《秦风·蒹葭》：“所谓伊人，在水之湄”。虽然没有上文中的“在水一方”有名，但它更适合取名。
36、渥丹。《秦风·终南》：“颜如渥丹，其君也哉”。渥丹：色泽红润貌。
37、美淑。《陈风·东门之池》：“彼美淑姬，可与晤歌”。
38、舒窈。《陈风·月出》：“舒窈纠兮，劳心悄兮”，舒：舒缓轻盈貌；窈纠（jiǎo）其实是连在一起的，体态窈窕貌。但我觉得“舒窈”是个更好听的名字。《月出》是整本《诗经》中非常有意境的一篇，在我大爱的电影——徐克的《梁祝》中也有出现，我对她爱不释手。
39、楚楚。《曹风·蜉蝣》：“蜉蝣之羽，衣裳楚楚”。楚楚：鲜明貌。蜉蝣是一种短命的小虫，故而此篇的基调是消沉的。
40、如雪。《曹风·蜉蝣》：“蜉蝣掘阅，麻衣如雪”。个人最喜欢刘禹锡的一句：“晚来风起花如雪，飞入宫墙不见人”。
41、荟蔚。《曹风·候人》：“荟兮蔚兮，南山朝隮”。荟蔚：云雾弥漫貌。
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1、翕（xī）。单名一个“翕”字，取自《小雅·鹿鸣之什·常棣》：“兄弟既翕，和乐且湛”。翕：和顺。以读音xī为名的人很多，但该字却不常见。《易经·系辞上·第六章》曰：“夫坤，其静也翕，其动也辟，是以广生焉”，“静翕”也是一个文静内敛的名字。
2、依依。《鹿鸣之什·采薇》：“昔我往矣，杨柳依依”。依依：柳枝随风飘摇。在其它语境中也形容不舍。
3、霏霏。《鹿鸣之什·采薇》：“今我来思，雨雪霏霏”（后文还有：“雨雪雰雰”）。霏霏：雪花纷飞貌。然而该词多用以形容雨雪天气，阴森气氛= =如范仲淹《岳阳楼记》：“淫雨霏霏，连月不开，阴风怒号，浊浪排空···”没完没了的下雨必然就令人抓狂了啊！所以凡事讲个度，名中若用“霏”字，一个足矣！
4、燕绥。《南有嘉鱼之什·南有嘉鱼》：“君子有酒，嘉宾式燕绥之”。燕：即“宴”，这里指宴请，描述席间的景象；绥：安宁。后文还有“燕笑”、“燕喜”等。
5、令仪。《南有嘉鱼之什·湛露》：“岂弟君子，莫不令仪”。令仪：优雅的风度。取这个名字的知名人士有：包拯他爹包令仪、孔祥熙和宋霭龄的长女孔令仪等。
6、闻天。《鸿雁之什·鹤鸣》：“鹤鸣于九皋，声闻于天”。个人非常喜欢的一句（总让我想起三国时的凤雏···）。譬如Party早期的Leader张闻天同志。
7、金玉。《鸿雁之什·白驹》：“毋金玉尔音，而有遐心”。金玉：比喻珍贵和美好。这里用作动词，指珍惜。
8、攸宁。《鸿雁之什·斯干》：“君子攸宁”。
9、骏德。《节南山之什·雨无正》：“浩浩昊天，不骏其德”，骏德：犹言美好的品德。
10、翰飞。《节南山之什·小宛》：“宛彼鸣鸠，翰飞戾天”。翰飞：高飞。
11、巧颜。该名字绝对是个大花瓶，看看《节南山之什·巧言》怎么说的：“巧言如簧，颜之厚矣”！这才叫骂人不带脏字。在《诗经》的语境下，无论“巧言”还是“巧颜”都是很不好的名字，不要被字面给骗了。
12、溱溱（音真）。《鸿雁之什·无羊》：“旐维旟矣，室家溱溱”。和国风篇第一个词条“蓁蓁”是一样的意思，表众多。五行缺水的话可以用“溱”。此字多音，也读秦。
13、嘉卉。《谷风之什·四月》：“山有嘉卉，侯栗侯梅”。嘉卉：美丽的草木。是个带着青草气息的名字，小清新范儿。
14、雅南。《谷风之什·鼓钟》：“以雅以南，以龠不僭”。雅和南均指音乐，且相当于在维也纳金色大厅里演奏的那种高雅音乐。
15、苾芬。《谷风之什·楚茨》：“苾芬孝祀，神嗜饮食”。苾芬：芬芳。又如《谷风之什·信南山》：“是烝是享，苾苾芬芬”。
16、思柔。《甫田之什·桑扈》：“兕觥其觩，旨酒思柔”。在这里，思是助词，柔指柔和。形容美酒温和。
17、英英。《鱼藻之什·白华》：“英英白云，露彼菅茅”。英英：轻盈明亮貌。在其它语境中，也可指杰出、有才、美好等。
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1、维桢。《大雅·文王之什·文王》：“王国克生，维周之桢”，维：维系；桢：支柱，栋梁。后文《周颂·维清》中还有“维周之祯”，祯是吉祥的意思。
2、缉熙。《文王之什·文王》：“穆穆文王，于缉熙敬止”。缉熙：光明。《文心雕龙·时序》曰：“并文明自天，缉熙景祚”。
3、鹰扬。《文王之什·大明》：“维师尚父，时维鹰扬”。鹰扬：犹言鹰之飞扬，威武貌。《后汉书·刘陶传》：“鹰扬天下”，霸气外露有木有！但该词极易被读成“阴阳”，登时霸气侧漏了···
4、玉瓒。《文王之什·旱麓》：“瑟彼玉瓒，黄流在中”，玉瓒：天子祭祀时用的酒器。
5、思齐。《文王之什·思齐》：“思齐大任，文王之母”。这里“齐”字其实读“zhāi”，通“斋”，端庄貌。《论语·里仁》：“见贤思齐焉，见不贤而内自省也”，从而衍生出成语“见贤思齐”，这里就读“qí”了。例如毛岸英的遗孀刘思齐···
6、徽音。《文王之什·思齐》：“大姒嗣徽音，则百斯男”。徽音：美誉。
7、静嘉。《生民之什·既醉》：“其告维何？笾豆静嘉”。静嘉：洁净美好。
8、清馨。《生民之什·凫鹥》：“尔酒既清，尔肴既馨”。
9、柔嘉。《荡之什·抑》：“敬尔威仪，无不柔嘉”。柔嘉：柔和美善。《荡之什·烝民》：“仲山甫之德，柔嘉维则”。
10、柔惠。《荡之什·崧高》：“申伯之德，柔惠且直”。柔惠：柔和仁惠。
11、懿德。《荡之什·烝民》：“民之秉彝，好是懿德”。懿德：美德。感觉这个词儿一般都用作什么皇太后的谥号···
12、穆清。《荡之什·烝民》：“吉甫作诵，穆如清风”。穆清指清和之气。
13、哲成。《荡之什·瞻卬》：“哲夫成城”。
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1、秉文。《周颂·清庙》：“济济多士，秉文之德”。
2、德纯。《周颂·维天之命》：“于乎不显，文王之德之纯”。德纯：品德纯正。
3、骏惠。《周颂·维天之命》：“骏惠我文王，曾孙笃之”。骏﹑惠二字平列﹐皆为顺之意。
4、振鹭。《周颂·振鹭》：”振鹭于飞，于彼西雍”。振鹭：振翅高飞的白鹭。
5、和铃。《周颂·载见》：“龙旂阳阳，和铃央央”。
6、馨宁。《周颂·载芟》：“有椒其馨，胡考之宁”。馨：馨香；宁：安宁。
7、纯熙。《周颂·酌》：“时纯熙矣，是用大介”。纯：大。熙：光明。
8、其琛。《鲁颂·泮水》：“憬彼淮夷，来献其琛”。琛：珍宝。如外交部原部长钱其琛。
整理到这里告一段落了，欢迎大家补充^ ^
做人做事的普遍原则
作者：Hammer_ 发布时间：2012-02-03 18:21:57
Before we commence reading How To Win Friends And Influence People, we should first realize that this book had been written to be used to as textbook for the author's course in Effective speaking and Human relationship and it still used for today.
So please not categorize this book as Self-help or Motivational book which often be degraded by those who unceasingly declaim how badly they hate this sort of things.
Dealing with people is probably the biggest problem we face, especially if you are in business. Those principles can apply to all walks of people.
If you wish to get the most out of this book, there is one indispensable requirement, one essential infinitely more important than any rule or technique. Unless you have this one fundamental requisite, a thousand rules on how to study will avail little.
What is this magic requirement? Just this: a deep, driving desire to learn, a vigorous determination to increase your ability to deal with people.
Once you believe,that works.
“Education,” said the author “is the ability to meet life’s situations,”
If by the time you have finished reading the first three chapters of this book- if you aren’t then a little better equipped to meet life’s situations, then I shall consider this book to be a total failure so far as you are concerned. For “the great aim of education,” said the author, “is not knowledge but action.”
And this is an action book :)
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readingnote:
第一大章：怎样赢得朋友
原则一：永远不要去批评别人
很精辟，我们应该转换方式，让他们自己发现，或者用一种温和，婉转的方式，反之就算是中肯的批评也是有害无利
1.ninety-nine times out of a hundred, people don’t criticize themselves for anything, no matter how wrong it may be.
2.Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment
3.Let’s realize that the person we are going to correct and condemn will probably justify himself or herself, and condemn us in return or, like the gentle Taft, will say: “I don’t see how I could have done any differently from what I have.
4.每当我们想要批评别人的时候，想想这句话：“I don’t see how I could have done any differently from what I have”Judge not, that ye be not judged
5.最真诚的忠告------勿责人，常思已过：Do you know someone you would like to change and regulate and improve? Good! That is fine. I am all in favor of it, But why not begin on yourself? From a purely selfish standpoint, that is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others - yes, and a lot less dangerous. “Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof,” said Confucius, “when your own doorstep is unclean.”
6.每个人都是感性的动物：When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.
7.我们应该做的：Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. “To know all is to forgive all.”
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原则二 如何与人打交道---Give honest and sincere appreciation
1、（有道理！）There is only one way under high heaven to get anybody to do anything. Did you ever stop to think of that? Yes, just one way. And that is by making the other person want to do it. Remember, there is no other way.
2.每个人都得到赞扬啊：The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.The desire for a feeling of importance is one of the chief distinguishing differences between mankind and the animals
3. 赞扬和奉承的区别：The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart out,the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish,the other selfish. One is universally admired, the other universally condemned.
4.多点发自内心的感激，别吝啬对我们爱的人的赞扬：When we are not engaged in thinking about some definite problem, we usually spend about 95 percent of our time thinking about ourselves. Now, if we stop thinking about ourselves for a while and begin to think of the other person’s good points, we won’t have to resort to flattery so cheap and false that it can be spotted almost before it is out of the mouth
5. 真的是这样呢：Let’s cease thinking of our accomplishments, our wants. Let’s try to figure out the other person’s good points. Then forget flattery. Give honest, sincere appreciation. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise,” and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime -repeat them years after you have forgotten them
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原则三. 去谈论人家感兴趣的事----Arouse in the other person an eager want
1.少谈自己，谈大家的兴趣和利益所在：So the only way cm earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it. Remember that tomorrow when you are trying to get somebody to do something. If, for example, you don’t want your children to smoke, don’t preach at them, and don’t talk about what you want? but show them that cigarettes may keep them from making the basketball team or winning the hundred-yard dash.（销售的人应该学学，学会从他人的角度看问题）
2.If out of reading this book you get just one thing- an increased tendency to think always in terms of other people’s point of view, and see things from their angle - if you get that one thing out of this book, it may easily prove to be one of the building blocks of your career.
3、我们的目的不是为了操纵人，而是实现双赢：Looking at the other person’s point of view and arousing in him an eager want for something is not to be construed as manipulating that person so that he will do something that is only for your benefit and his detriment
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第二大章：怎样让人喜欢你
原则一：Become genuinely interested in other people--对他人感兴趣
1.If we want to make friends, let’s put ourselves out to do things for other people -things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness
2.If we want to make friends, let’s greet people with animation and enthusiasm. When somebody calls you on the telephone use the same psychology
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原则二：经常微笑
1.Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you, You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”That is why dogs make such a hit. They are so glad to see us that they almost jump out of their skins. So, naturally, we are glad to see them. A baby’s smile has the same effect
2.A man without a smiling face must not open a shop.”Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it. To someone who has seen a dozen people frown, scowl or turn their faces away, your smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds. Especially when that someone is under pressure from his bosses, his customers, his teachers or parents or children, a smile can help him realize that all is not hopeless -that there is joy in the world.
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原则三：记住别人的名字
Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language
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原则四： 做一个好的听众，让别人去谈论自己（Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves）
So if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.
Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems. A person’s toothache means more to that person than a famine in China which kills a million people. A boil on one’s neck interests one more than forty earthquakes in Africa. Think of that the next time you start a conversation
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原则五：谈别人感兴趣的事（Talk in terms of the other person’s interests. ）
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原则六：承认对方的优点和对自己的重要性（Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely）
The unvarnished truth is that almost all the people you meet feel themselves superior to you in some way, and a sure way to their hearts is to let them realize in some subtle way that you recognize their importance, and recognize it sincerely. Remember what Emerson said: “Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him.
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第三大章：How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking
原则一：避免和人辩论，因为你永远不会赢---这个，偶觉得还是方式的问题，不过还是尽量避免好了，因为没啥意义啊！：）The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it
You can’t win an argument. You can’t because if you lose it, you lose it,and if you win it, you lose it. Why?Well, suppose you triumph over the other man and shoot This argument full of holes and prove that he is non compos mentis.Then what? You will feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior. You have hurt his pride. He will resent your triumph. And A man convinced against his will Is of the same opinion still
If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes, but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent’s good wil
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独立一段，关于怎样应对argument的建议：
一 不同的见解是有益的：Welcome the disagreement. Remember the slogan, “When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary.” If there is some point you haven’t thought about, be thankful if it is brought to your attention. Perhaps this disagreement is your opportunity to be corrected before you make a serious mistake.
二：(别相信你的第一直觉印象--适用于异见）Distrust your first instinctive impression. Our first natural reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be defensive. Be careful. Keep calm and watch out for your first reaction. It may be you at your worst, not your best
三（控制你的脾气）Control your temper. Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry. Listen first. Give your opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This only raises barriers. Try to build bridges of understanding. Don’t build higher barriers of misunderstanding.
四：求同存异：Look for areas of agreement. When you have heard your opponents out, dwell first on the points and areas on which
you agree.
五：诚实： Be honest, Look for areas where you can admit error and say so. Apologize for your mistakes. It will help disarm your
opponents and reduce defensiveness.
六：Promise to think over your opponents’ ideas and study them carefully. And mean it. Your opponents may be right. It is a lot easier at this stage to agree to think about their points than to move rapidly ahead and find yourself in a position where your opponents can say: “We tried to tell you, but you wouldn’t listen.”
七：感谢你的对手：Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest. Anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested in the same things you are. Think of them as people who really want to help you, and you may turn your opponents into friends.
八：给点时间给对方（很重要，很多时候回头看，会觉得当时狠傻，没必要为这问题吵，也从另一方面得出，和人去争论什么，真的没啥意义）Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem
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原则二：别告诉别人自己比他们要高明
这段狠有哲理，别证明自己比其他人聪明，就算知道，也别告诉他
That is a challenge. It arouses opposition and makes the listener want to battle with you before you even start. It is difficult, under even the most benign conditions, to change people’s minds. So why make it harder? Why handicap yourself? If you are going to prove anything, don’t let anybody know it. Do it so subtly, so adroitly, that no one will feel that you are doing it.
This was expressed succinctly by Alexander Pope: Men must be taught as if you taught them not And things unknown proposed as things forgot.
Over three hundred years ago Galileo said: You cannot teach a man anything? you can only help him to find it within himself.
As Lord Chesterfield said to his son: Be wiser than other people if you can? but do not tell them so.
（勇于承认错误是最对的）You will never get into trouble by admitting that you may be wrong. That will stop all argument and inspire your opponent to be just as fair and open and broad-minded as you are. It will make him want to admit that he, too, may be wrong
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原则三：勇于认错
When we are right, let’s try to win people gently and tactfully to our way of thinking, and when we are wrong and that will be surprisingly often, if we are honest with ourselves - let’s admit our mistakes quickly and with enthusiasm. Not only will that technique produce astonishing results? but, believe it or not, it is a lot more
fun, under the circumstances, than trying to defend oneself.
Remember the old proverb: "By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected.”
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原则四：以友好的方式开始 Begin in a friendly way.
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原则五： Get the other person saying “yes, yes”
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原则六：Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
（这里和上面有点重复了，其实这里有很多原则是共通的）
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原则七：Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers
卡内基是个中国通，他引用了好多中国古代的谚语和道德经的东西：
" The reason why rivers and seas receive the homage of a hundred mountain streams is that they keep below them. Thus they are able to reign over all the mountain streams. So the sage, wishing to be above men, put himself below them, wishing to be before them, he put himself behind them. Thus, though his place be above men, they do not feel his weight,though his place be before them, they do not count it an injury.”
海纳百川，有容乃大
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如果仅仅把这书当做是快餐书，励志书，成功学，
真的很可惜，
这书流传这么久真有它的道理，一些自以为是的“读书人”可能不屑看这类书，替他们遗憾。
一本值得反复看的经典之作，最重要是去实践上述的原则，
要记住：“This is an action book.”
2012.2.3
By Hammer
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